Although not much is surprising when it comes to the conduct of soon to be ex-spouses, I do find it odd when one partner continues to buy holiday gifts for the other despite no evidence of any chance of reconciliation. Most often, the Husband seems to believe that the wife or more appropriately, soon to be ex-wife wants to receive gifts from him. In some situations, the wife may receive flowers, jewelry, or perhaps a more unique gift. Nevertheless, it seems that most, if not all, of the women are typically annoyed by the gifts bestowed upon them. In fact, we have previously used continued gift giving and other romantic advances as a basis for a contempt motion since the temporary order in that case explicitly prohibited the husband from making any romantic advances. It is unfortunate that such drastic measure are sometimes necessary, but some individuals seem to have a very difficult time learning that a pending divorce sometimes means it is over.
It is our recommendation that divorcing spouses refrain from sending their soon-to-be ex-spouse gifts during the holidays, unless of course it is a small gift from a child or there is a potential reconciliation in the works. While your intent may be sincere, the gift is likely to be the cause of much frustration and perhaps even some concern on behalf of the recipient.
If you would like to discuss the possibility of divorce or other issues regarding appropriate conduct during the divorce process, please contact the experienced family law attorneys at Durden & Mills, P.C.. You can call us at (706) 543-4708.